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#1) I fantasize about being in a relationship with Twilight Sparkle. I can't seem to stop myself. What should I do?~

Answer: While the behaviour is, of course, unusual, at least you realise that something is wrong, which means that you're halfway there to winning the battle. While it's healthy to develop certain bonds with characters from a TV show, there's obviously a point where reality and fantasy should remain separate. That point, it appears, seems to be when you start imagining yourself in a relationship with a pony.

While you're sure to face a degree of ridicule based on your confession, it's important to understand why you feel attracted to Twilight Sparkle. If it's the qualities that her character conveys, such as punctuality, hard-work and intelligence, then those are all fine traits that you perhaps wish to find in a real-life partner. Given the detailed characterisation of the ponies in "Friendship is Magic", it's not beyond the realms of comprehension that people would develop strong feelings for them based on the exploits that they overcome and the behaviours that they demonstrate.

The obvious answer is to try and distance yourself from Twilight Sparkle. Maybe you should make a list of all the things that you dislike about her character? For example, she has a tendency to go crazy over tiny, insignificant things, and she can be a bit of a know-it-all. If you spend a lot of time looking at images of Twilight Sparkle, try looking at some other ponies, or even stuff outside of pony art. Your infatuation may have come from an obsessive adoration for the character stemming from hoarding art and literature of her: change this as soon as you can.

Obviously, your issue goes deeper than I can engage with here, and there's little that one person can say to make you change how you feel. But if you genuinely want to have a relationship with Twilight Sparkle, then the important thing to realise is that you want a relationship in general: it's possible that you want to invest in another person and be there for them, which is never a bad thing. You just need to move away from the pony and find another human being who displays those characteristics. An unrequited love for a pony may not seem too damaging, but it's holding you back from making positive changes to your life.

#2) Other pony artists are more popular than I am. It's not fair!~

Answer: Popularity can be a double-edged sword. While you might like to be popular, there's nothing wrong with remaining relatively unknown, or even having a small but loyal band of followers. People like to think that popularity is something to aspire to, but having thousands of watchers and fans isn't always a good thing. Some people prefer to know all of their watchers by name or icon and have lengthy discussions with them. If you're really popular, you might lose out on that close level of interaction.

While you might not think that it's fair that others are popular within the fandom when you're not, you shouldn't target other people due to their popularity. People work hard to get respect and followers; if someone is popular, you can be sure that they've put a lot of effort into getting there. Sometimes popularity comes from raw talent, but other times it can come from a good idea. As long as you're passionate and willing to get involved in a variety of projects, your name will start to get around and people will begin to recognise you.

Sheer popularity is reserved for the few, and you shouldn't worry if other people are getting more views on their pictures, or music, or anything else than you. While the initial reaction is to get jealous and think that life isn't fair, you're better off avoiding feeling sorry for yourself; pick yourself up and get back out there. By applying yourself, you'll do far better than just sitting back and complaining. Don't spend your time concerning yourself with what others have. Focus on what you have already, and set yourself realistic goals.

#3) I want an alicorn OC but I'm scared people will hate me for it. Should I make one anyway?~

Answer: A lot of people have a problem with pony OCs that are, at least in their minds, poorly designed. You'll find that certain aspects of a design are objective; different people may like what others hate, and vice versa. By all means, having a typical earth, unicorn or pegasus pony OC is reasonable, but some people might like to try to deviate from normalcy.

If you'd like to make an alicorn OC, for example, then you might get a bit of negative attention, but generally people shouldn't bother you too much: if you feel that having a horn and wings will benefit your character, then go ahead and do it. There's something of a tendency among some pony fans to get elitist and snooty about design choices. But you shouldn't base your artistic decisions on what other people want or expect: you're free to design whatever you want, and nobody can stop you.

Alicorn OCs are frowned upon, mainly, because of canonical rules of there being very few of them.  In addition, alicorns seem to be royalty, and so if you make an alicorn who is also royalty in some way, you may be accused of making a character that's too overpowered. However, the most that you'll receive if this is the creative direction that you want to take your alicorn OC in will be a few negative comments, which you can easily choose to ignore rather than engage with. 'Alicorn' has become something of a dirty word within the pony fandom, but if you're willing to deal with the stigma associated with it, then go ahead and make one. After all, it's only pony art: if people hate you for it, fuck 'em!
Next Issue:


A new weekly project that I'm starting in collaboration with artists. It's an advice column, in the simplest of terms: I want you to send me notes if you have any problems, secrets or comments on the pony fandom of any nature. It doesn't matter how embarrassing, offensive or vicious they might be: if you want someone to comment on them in an unbiased way, send them over. Maybe there's something within the fandom that you particularly despise, or perhaps you're feeling sad and need to hear some friendly advice? Whatever the motive, send a note with your comment or question.

I'll then respond to them with advice and commentary and post the answers up in future installments. Users will remain anonymous, so you don't need to worry about your feelings and thoughts getting out onto DeviantArt. You may find that some of the things that you've personally been feeling will be addressed.

Feel free to note me if you would like your questions and observations to be answered in an upcoming edition. Every week I'll be engaging with three issues. The above three featured today were submitted by anonymous deviants.

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JNinelives Featured By Owner Edited Oct 5, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Hi there!

I may be wrong, but I suspect you meant:
certain aspects of a design are subjective; different people may like what others hate
rather than:
certain aspects of a design are objective; different people may like what others hate

Also, I think this project is a great idea, I look forward to reading the rest of your columns in chronological order :).
Prism-S Featured By Owner May 2, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Perhaps channel what you like in your favorite pony towards looking for a human that resembles those qualities?
'Tis what I do with my Applejack obsession.... and there ain't nothing wrong or unlikable about her.
.... besides her fictionality.
Keryth-V-2 Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2012
An easier answer to these questions... grow up.
Cuddlepug Featured By Owner Dec 6, 2012
Because that type of response is totally going to help people.
Magnaliscous Featured By Owner Oct 13, 2012
There are only two alicorn Characters ive come gto respect, good alicorn Fan-chars are rare and often very well defined gems,
BB-K Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
#1 to me is just a favorite character, no need to be so in love with her. After all, imagine once a cartoon is finally over, the favorite value in that character will fade. I learn it the hard way such as Danny Phantom, once I love so much including Dani Phantom as my favorite girl, the interest fades after the show ended. To put it together, treat it as a favorite character, we can go over the edge such as in romance, but avoid treating Twilight as a virtual girlfriend.
MysteriMaan Featured By Owner Sep 18, 2012  Hobbyist Filmographer
:iconsmilingnegro4plz::iconsmilingnegro5plz::iconsmilingnegro6plz: :iconsaysplz:I needed this Thanks !
Aouros Featured By Owner Aug 26, 2012
For the alicorn problem,
In my mind, it can be a problem, with being overpowered.
But, if you give your OC weaknesses to balance the scale, not only do you silence some haters, but you now have the abillity to put in little comedy scenes.
tehflah Featured By Owner Aug 14, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
hah, I just caught whiff of this since I decided to start going through my massive pile of new stuff on my deviantart watch while I was busy with summer. This is a really great idea; keep it up! :D
Cuddlepug Featured By Owner Aug 14, 2012
Revelation 21:4: "He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.”
Derroflcopter Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2012
I pretend my body pillow is Fluttershy and I'm perfectly fine with it.
Cuddlepug Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2012
Does the pillow enjoy itself?
Derroflcopter Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2012
Maybe. :iconfluttershystareplz:
DiddyJakal Featured By Owner Aug 7, 2012
Perhaps I will try your advice with the first one on my love for Princess Luna. Wish me luck!
KamiyaAkuto Featured By Owner Aug 1, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
In regards to question one, there are a few people who could actually benefit from an attraction to fictional characters. Yes, I understand that usually these kind of feelings can become harmful when one takes them too seriously, but I don't think that having these feelings will always be an indication of needing human companionship.

For example, it's considered healthy to fantasize about fictional characters in the asexual community. Asexuals can feel the need for a romantic outlet, but most don't feel any desire to make these fantasies real. Seeing as the real danger to this attraction is obsession, it would be reasonable to say that people not in danger of obsessive behavior should be okay. People who can keep their desires under control also tend to keep them to themselves, and only create limited amounts of art or fanfiction on the matter.

I respect your opinion on the matter and understand that you are only trying to help. In fact, your advice may be helping a lot of people who need it! But this is just my take on it, as an asexual who isn't doing any harm in liking a fictional character. I hope you understand, and I mean no offense in my statement.
chibilombax Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2012
Didn't expect anyone to mention Asexuals. That's how it is for me. Have no interest in sexual stuff in real life. So most of it is mental. Granted I use Loki from Avengers. Not Ponies. Still lol. I think so long as fantasy and reality remain intact. And no one is getting hurt, especially the person who is having the fantasies in the first place. Then things are fine.
KamiyaAkuto Featured By Owner Aug 8, 2012  Hobbyist Writer
Exactly, I'm glad someone understands! ^^ (also, no ponies for me either...)
VoaxmasterSpydre Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
:iconslowclapplz: Well said Cudpug, well said...
BB-K Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Oh dear, a sad Twilight is pretty sad. :(
Novanplz Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2012
Very interesting. Is it okay for an alicorn OC to stay WAY in the background and just about invisible?
Cuddlepug Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2012
I imagine so.
Novanplz Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2012
Good, because my Alicorn practically stays as FAR in the background as possible.
MillenniumFalsehood Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2012  Professional Traditional Artist
There's a ton of raw wisdom in this. I hope you continue to answer these! :D
Catnipfairy Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thats a real nice cover image you have there. That artist sure has some talent!
Daaberlicious Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
Cudpug, I believe I have new respect for you with this post.
Cuddlepug Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2012
New respect, huh? I wonder what I did to lose your respect prior.
Daaberlicious Featured By Owner Aug 9, 2012  Professional Digital Artist
What you had before was a completely neutral opinion on my part. That's where the new respect comes in.
ColgateFIM Featured By Owner Jul 29, 2012  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Hopefully this will bring some justice
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